How do we define best friends?How do you know this person is fit to be your best friend and not just a normal friend based on that few years you have known each other. I mean,why do we need a best friend in the first place? Shouldn't the clique we hang out with be close enough to share every feelings and thoughts we have? So why does that one person in the clique get that one extra title?The title of My Best Friend.

Isn't it kind of interesting how somone you can know for 10 years is still somewhat of a stranger to you while the friend you have just met less than a decade ago can know you inside out and sense every mood change in you even though she is not right there beside you?How is that possible? Shouldn't time reveal all about a person?So why is it the decade long friend cannot seem to understand you just as well?I guess it just means that it is not always about how long you have known a person but how much you choose to reveal to that person.The number of years you have been together does not matter in this case.It is how comfortable you feel when you are around him or her.How much you want her to look deep inside you and the insecurities you carry with you.

There have been many times where I have revealed my most vulnerable side to a friend of just 4 years when I have never shown such an insecured me to my own best friend and it makes me wonder why. Why? I mean best friend means you share eveything with that particular person right? Your goals,your dreams,your happiness and your fears. Everything that defines you. So why is that not possible?Other than confiding mostly about school worries and other minute details,I cannot seem to expose the other side of me just as easily as I have done to the friend of few years. Does that mean she is not fit to be my best friend? Somehow, I disagree with that thought because at the end of the day, she happens to be the only person I know who has yet to fight with me(touchwood) and has till today,never made me feel an inch of inferiority at all.Someone whom I can talk and at the same time listen to.

Still, I can't seem to be as open as I am with the latter.I think it is the special bond we shared the moment we started talking in temasek poly.The unseen chemistry that just ignited something inside me to just go ahead and be an open book.To be myself-the girl with many insecurities from childhood,fears and yet have big dreams she wants to make come true.

By the end of my 15 minute long bus ride,I figured that a best friend is just like a diary-You reveal what you are comfortable sharing and keep the rest locked inside you.It does not make that book any less special.